No One Talks About the Real Reason You Start a Startup—So I Will

You think you know why you’re starting up—until you’re in it.

Sure, you'll hear all about fancy products, big funding rounds, and those happily ever after exit stories that make you green with envy. But the real deal? That raw, messy, almost crazy urge that pushes you way past your comfort zone? Not many people chat about that. So, let me share my own story – from routine office jobs to working all day and night, and that little voice inside my head that kept saying, this is it!

1.  The Push: Ditching the Desk for Something Real

Okay, I used to be one of those corporate people, you know? Regular paycheck, same stuff every day, getting promoted when I was supposed to. I even thought I was happy! But the thing is, I have this creative side that felt like it was stuck in a box. All these crazy ideas were just floating around in my head, the kind that make you excited and a little scared at the same time.

I was staring at the clock, probably waiting for 5 PM, and I thought to myself, is this all there is? It was like a punch to the stomach. I knew I needed to start my own business.

What nobody tells you is how guilty you feel when you start wanting more. It's like you're not allowed to be happy because you want to walk away from something good for something that isn't promised. You might even know someone who will try to make you feel bad about wanting more out of life than what you already have. They will criticize you and call you crazy. But you should not listen to them, just go ahead and do what you think is right.

2.  The Burning Desire: To Truly Matter

Alright, so many people talk about wanting to make a real change in the world. But let's keep it honest: you've got to really mean it, right? For me, I needed to actually see with my own eyes that what I was working so hard on truly made a difference to someone's life.

One night at 2 AM, totally absorbed in figuring out how to get my product to work just right. Then, I started getting user feedback. The moment I saw someone genuinely excited about something I had created. That was a game changer. It was a feeling I'd never had before.

That burning desire to create something, to build something meaningful, sometimes feels like a totally insane idea. It's like you're trying to prove some kind of point that no one even asked you to prove in the first place. You start to question if you are capable or worthy to be building. But deep down, there's just this voice that whispers, If I don't give this a shot, if I don't try this, I'm going to look back on my life with sadness and regret as the years slip away. And that thought? That's what keeps me going! That's the fire that ignites you to ignore all of your downfalls, ignore the reasons why you shouldn't do it. That fire gives you passion, it gives you excitement.

3.  Freedom and Control: A Blessing and a Curse

Okay, so there's something really special about making something from the ground up. It's like, you're the boss of everything. That missed deadline? The glitchy feature? Yep, all me. My choices, my screw-ups. But honestly, that's part of what I love. It's a total addiction.

When it's your own thing, you get to call all the shots. You get to bring your own idea to life, choose when you work, and build your own group of people around you. Before, I used to stare at the clock, waiting for the workday to end. Now? I'm putting in as much effort as I can – often working 16 to 18 hours a day – and honestly, I'm enjoying most of it. It's wild, right?

But let me be real, that freedom? It can be a double-edged sword. No one's checking up on you, which is great, but if you drop the ball, there's no hiding. It's all on you. No pointing fingers, no excuses. And when you're running on empty, feeling like your brain's turned to mush, there's no one there to catch you if you fall. You just have to buckle down and push through. It can be tough when those days hit, but you learn to keep going.

And here's where it gets even more interesting. When you're building something from nothing, you're not just creating a product or service; you're creating a culture. You get to set the tone for how things are done, how people are treated, and what values you stand for. That's a huge responsibility, but it's also an awesome opportunity to make a positive impact.

One of the coolest things is watching your team grow and develop. You're not just a boss; you're a mentor, a coach, and a cheerleader. Seeing people step up, take ownership, and achieve things they never thought possible is incredibly rewarding. Plus, you learn so much from them too. It's a two-way street. Everyone is in it collectively.

But let's not pretend it's all sunshine and rainbows. There are definitely moments when you question everything. When you're staring at a mountain of problems and you have no idea how to solve them. Those are the times when self-doubt creeps in, and you wonder if you're really cut out for this.

That's when you have to dig deep and remind yourself why you started in the first place. What was the spark that ignited your passion? What problem are you trying to solve? Remembering your why can give you the strength to keep going, even when things get really tough.

And here's a little secret: it's okay to ask for help. Nobody expects you to know everything. Surround yourself with smart, talented people who can fill in the gaps in your knowledge and experience. Don't be afraid to lean on them for support and guidance.

Building something from scratch is not easy. But it's also one of the most rewarding things you can do. It's about taking a chance on yourself, betting on your vision, and having the grit to see it through, even when the odds are stacked against you. And when you finally get to that point where you're looking at it, everything you have done, seeing the finished product and seeing the impact you have made, that feeling of accomplishment is unlike anything else in the world.

4.  The Long Hours: Honestly, It's Intense

Okay, let's be real. Starting your own thing is tough. Like, really tough. You're going to be putting in hours you never thought possible. Forget about chill weekends, movie nights, or even taking a proper vacation. You'll be wearing all the hats – content creator, operations, customer support, accountant – basically everything.

I remember hitting a wall and feeling super burned out. That's when I realized I needed to take a breath and slow things way down. Even when things were a mess, what kept me going was that little excitement, the idea that I was building something that was all mine.

You really do sacrifice a lot when you're chasing that dream. Your health might take a hit, your social life might disappear, and sometimes you just feel plain exhausted. But there's this tiny voice inside that tells you it's the right path. That's the feeling that makes the hard work totally worth it. I trust that you will realize that it is worth doing.

5.  Being Flexible: Working When You Feel Good

I used to think that flexibility at work meant things like being able to work from home or maybe having a casual dress code on Fridays. You know, the perks everyone talks about.

But after becoming a founder, I learned that flexibility is actually something else entirely. It's more about working when you're feeling most creative and productive. Like, if you get this awesome idea at 2 a.m., you just get up and start working on it! And if you're totally dragging at 3 in the afternoon, it's perfectly fine to take a break, chill out for a bit, and recharge.

The great thing is that you're working with your own body's natural rhythms, which makes it so easier to keep going in the long run. Plus, let’s be honest, it's way more fun than being stuck at a desk from nine to five every day. I found it helped with solving problems. The traditional mindset won't help with difficult challenges. Take a deep breath. A walk in nature. And try fresh perspective. After all, starting a company is about creativity and new ideas.

Now, let's be real – this kind of flexibility also means you're always kind of on, you know? You work from your bed sometimes. You work on airplanes. You work from all sorts of different places, simply because your brain is constantly buzzing with work-related thoughts and ideas. It means you are on call 24/7. You need to get used to it. The flexibility works both ways. Don't look at it as disadvantages. Think about how to get around it and keep the momentum move forward as a founder.

6.  Risk or Reward: Time to Stir it Up

So, taking risks, right? It's not just one thing – it comes in all shapes and sizes. For me, it was definitely financial. I emptied my savings account, swiped my cards more than I should have, and there were times I didn't get paid when I should have. Then there was the reputation piece. I told everyone I left my old job looking for something bigger and better. Honestly? I was taking a HUGE gamble and just hoped it would work out.

But you know what I think is most important? Believing in yourself. If you don't have faith in what you're doing, who will? Yeah, the fear is super real. It's always there, lurking in the back of your mind, telling you all the things that could go wrong. But the potential rewards? They're just as real and even bigger. It's not just about the money. It's about gaining the respect of others, feeling a sense of pride in what you've built, and getting a rush from chasing your goals. Even that annoying little voice in your head that asks, What if you totally fail? can be weirdly motivating. It can push you to work harder and be more prepared.

And let's be honest with ourselves here. There's a part of you that actually "enjoys" the scariness of it all. You like the adrenaline rush. You want to show the world that you're capable of amazing things. And deep down, more than anything else, you really just want to convince yourself that you made the right decision. That you didn't just jump off a cliff for no reason. That this crazy thing you're doing is actually going to pay off. Taking risks requires you to have courage push you forward, have a sense of what can happen and live beyond ordinary. It's hard but with focus, it can be the best decision in your life.

7.  Trust & Faith: A Long Journey

Okay here's the thing about confidence: it's a tightrope walk. You need to believe in yourself, absolutely. You have to truly think you've got what it takes to make things happen. But, at the same time, you can't let that belief turn into arrogance. It's a tricky balance, right?

The key ingredient, I think, is knowing that you're not the finished product. You need to trust that you can always get better, that there's always something new to learn. That's where the real magic happens.

And be prepared to play the long game. Success rarely shows up on your doorstep overnight. It takes time, effort, and a whole lot of patience. That feeling when you finally break through after trying different stuff? There's almost nothing better. It's pure satisfaction.

There will be moments when you seriously question everything. When things get tough, you'll start to doubt your decisions. You'll ask yourself if you made the right choices. Was this all a mistake? That thought will creep in.

But here's the secret: Don’t stay down for long. Each morning, you need to get back up and try again. Why? Because you're hooked on your idea, you're passionate about it. That passion, that obsession, is what keeps you going, it’s what you really need. It's the fuel that will get you through those tough times and push you towards your goals. Keep that fire burning, and you'll get there.

8.  The Dark Areas: We Need to Address 

People often chat about the awesome parts of chasing a goal. You always hear about money coming in, big celebrations, and those seemingly instant wins. But what rarely gets talked about are the tough times. I'm talking about those nights when sleep is a distant memory, the disagreements with teammates, investors turning you down, and that nervous feeling right before you show your creation to the world.

And let's be real, who brings up those moments when you feel like you're the only one who believes in your idea? It can be a lonely feeling. Yet, in those moments, a fire ignites within us. That's where real passion comes from, pushing you to keep going even when things get super difficult.

It's also rare to hear people talk about what is given up on the road to chasing something. The strain on friendships, those precious moments missed with loved ones, and that constant feeling of being somewhere else mentally. These things happen more often than we think. If you're not prepared for these sacrifices, you might have the wrong idea about the road that leads to accomplishment. It's not always a smooth, glittering path. It often tests you in ways you never expected!

9.  Balancing: Relationships and Alone Time

Okay, so here's the thing about being a founder: people often think you're this lone wolf, right? Just off doing your own thing. But the truth is, you're going to be surrounded by people all the time. I'm talking about your team, your clients, mentors giving you advice, and even just people who are there to support you. You're never really alone.

That's why it's super important to balance your time. You need to make sure you're spending enough time with your team, working together, brainstorming, and just generally building those relationships. This is where you get ideas, where you build products, where you can boost everyone. Then, you also need blocks of time where you can really focus and get stuff done - without any distractions. Trust me, no social media during this time.

What I do is literally put it in my calendar. I schedule times for deep work, where I can shut everything out and just get into the zone. And then also schedule meeting for discussions, bouncing ideas around, and all the active things. This time is what makes your product and your team fantastic, you know?

Also, there are going to be times when you feel like other people are slowing you down. You might be on a roll, and then someone needs your attention. It can be annoying, I get it. But here's the flip side: there will also be times when those same people save you. They'll catch a mistake you missed, offer a new perspective, or just be there to support you when you're feeling burnt out. Building a company is a team effort, and those around you are the biggest asset.

10. Big Goals:  That Really Matters

If you're not aiming for something massive, something that really shakes things up, maybe this isn't the road for you. If you aren't willing to work very hard, your business will not be special. It will not grow as much.

You need that fire inside you, that feeling that you're here to make a difference. Seriously, that desire is what will push you. It can feel like a lot of pressure sometimes, but it's what keeps you going when everything else is pulling you down and what motivates you to keep improving.

This goal, this wanting to change the world - isn’t something you can just decide you want one day. It’s a real need. It’s something that won’t let you sleep at night. You can’t just switch it off. Even when people doubt you, even when things are tough and you feel like you are failing, and even when you're scraping the bottom of the barrel when it comes to funds – You've got to hold onto that picture in your mind. That vision will save you. Always imagine it. Never forget it.

11. Things To Remember: Always

Ever feel like your awesome ideas are just getting squashed by everyone around you? Yeah, me too.

Why are we even talking about this? Because you're probably sick of just pushing papers, right? You want to do something that matters, a real impact, not just some corporate thing.

So, what's the big idea? It's about taking the controls yourself. Building something awesome from scratch. You own it, you create it.

When does this happen? Whenever inspiration hits – maybe it's late at night when you can't sleep and ideas flood your mind.

What's on the line? Well, let's be real, there are risks. Your savings, time with those you care about, your energy, your precious sleep, maybe even how you see yourself. It can be tough.

But what do you get in return? Control. Freedom. You get to do what you actually want to do. And, most importantly, you get the chance to actually kill it and succeed on your own terms.

How should you approach this whole thing? Trust your gut. Be patient. And, weirdly, try to find some enjoyment even in the tough parts. It's all part of growing. You got to trust the process.

Now, let's not sugarcoat things. There are downsides. You might burn out if you push too hard. Anxiety can kick in, also fear of success is a real thing. You might feel lonely sometimes, like nobody gets what you're trying to do.

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It's so easy to get caught up in all the little things, the details, the stuff we think matters so much day to day. We sweat the small stuff, right? But let's be real, what really drives us? What gets us out of bed in the morning with a fire in our bellies?

It's not the stuff. It's not the perfectly organized desk or the latest gadget. It's the big picture! It's those goals you've set for yourself, the ones that genuinely excite you. Those are the things that keep you pushing forward, even when things get tough.

Think about it. We all have dreams, right? Ideas that we're passionate about, things we want to create or share with the world. Maybe you want to start a business, write a book, or just make a difference in your community. Whatever it is, that passion, that burning desire to bring that idea to life, that's the real fuel. That is what keeps people moving forward .

When you focus on spreading those ideas, when you pour your heart and soul into something you truly believe in, that's when the magic happens. That's when you're on the path to doing something truly incredible, something bigger than yourself. We're talking about potentially the biggest, most impactful thing you'll ever do.

It won't always be easy. There will be challenges, setbacks, and moments when you want to give up. But when you're connected to that core purpose, when you're driven by the desire to share your ideas, you'll find the strength to keep going. You'll find the energy to overcome any obstacle.

So, take a step back from the day-to-day grind. Reconnect with your goals, with your passions, with the ideas that set your soul on fire. Focus on spreading those ideas, and get ready for an experience that will change your life! This is where it all gets more exciting. It is where the potential for real growth and impact comes to play. Embrace your ideas, share them widely, and watch what happens when you make that the point of attention.